I am always amazed at the potential God has created in us. It is well known that we only use a fraction of our brain.

So what stops us fulfilling the potential in us?

Part of the reason may be found in what we believe of ourselves and what we believe others may think us. What we believe and think about ourselves is what we project.

An example will be an entrepreneur who is able to do business. He is able to project so much self-confidence that he is able to sell his product to someone who is reluctant to buy it. Then you may have another person trying to sell a product someone wants to buy but projects such negativity that the person who wants it won’t buy it from him.

We all have years of experiences that have strong emotional connections. Most of these experiences impact our daily thinking without us even knowing it. These recorded memories may act upon us subliminally from our subconscious. Our mind also has the ability to ‘lock experiences away’ without us being able recall them. This is referred to as dissociation, which occurs on numerous levels.

Let us take a person who feels they are unlovable. Because they believe that no one loves them, they are unable to receive love even when loved. This feeling that they are not loved is base upon experiences where they did not receive love or they interpreted their experiences as, ‘I am not lovable’. It may have been true then but it may not be valid today, but they still continually feel unloved. This has further problems in that they may begin to seek love in the wrong things or compensate in other ways.

The result of our emotional experiences is that as we project a ‘vibe’, people will treat us accordingly. We are the victim of our own erroneous thinking and beliefs. This then impacts our potential to be who we were created to be.

So how do we change our error based thinking?

Knowledge is an important first step. It is necessary that we realise we are not fulfilling our potential in a certain area. The next thing is to realise that we are capable of changing and then decide we want to change. Unfortunately just knowing a truth does not change our behaviour. Knowing we can stop smoking will not cause us to stop smoking. We need to look at what drives it.

Most of our error-based thinking is based in our experiences. We will need to explore the psycho-dynamic implications. We may need to unhook ourselves from the emotional impact of past experiences. We may need to re-program our behavioural and thinking patterns. We will need to learn new ways of doing things. And, most certainly, we will need to forgive and let go of resentments.

All this may take time but with the help of a good therapist we can change. As we change, we will begin to be all we were created to be.